Helping Someone You Care About
Family, friends and co-workers of someone experiencing domestic violence can be critical links to services for a victim seeking safety.
How can I help?
- Listen: Sometimes a victim just needs someone to hear them.
- Don’t judge: Victims don’t need to hear: "If it was me, I wouldn’t put up with that" or "I would leave." It may be a lot more complicated than you realize, and they may be in fear of the consequences of their actions.
- Be supportive: Let them know that they're not alone. Offer to sit with them while they call our hotline or offer to bring them to YWCA Greenwich for a counseling appointment. Your support may make the difference in whether or not they seek help.
- Get support for yourself: You may also be experiencing frustration, or even secondary trauma, as you try to offer support. You can contact YWCA Greenwich to speak with a counselor about planning for your own physical and emotional safety.
Call our hotline at 203-622-0003 to get support in helping someone you care about.
Comprehensive Domestic Abuse Services for Greenwich CT. Here When You Need Us
Helpful things to say
- I believe you
- I am afraid for your safety
- I am afraid for the safety of your children
- You don’t deserve to be treated this way
- What can I do to help? What is it you need right now?
- I am so sorry that this has happened to you
- I’m here to listen, if you want to talk
- No one has the right to be abusive – no matter what
- Many people have experienced this (You are not alone)
- YWCA Domestic Abuse Services may be able to give you some ideas and support
What should I do if a co-worker (friend/family member/neighbor) is being abused?
|Support them||Try to rescue them|
|Listen in a non-judgemental way||Blame or criticize|
|Validate them||Tell them what to do|
|Assure confidentiality and privacy||Intervene beyond your own capability
|Ask how you can help||Put yourself at risk|
|Be patient||Confront the abuser|
|Help them identify their own strengths||Ask too many questions.
Let them open up at their own pace.
|Remind them the abuse is not their fault||Place a hotline card in their purse
or send an email or text
|Encourage them to engage with YWCA Domestic Abuse Services and offer to call or go with them if you feel safe||Force them to talk to you|
|State clearly why you are concerned||Assume they don't want to ever
talk about it
|Let them know that you know how to get help||Publicly talk about it|
|Accept whatever they say|
|Reassure them that the lines of communication are always open|
|Carefully and privately document any overt evidence of abuse|