Myths vs. Facts
|People who abuse their partners do so because they can’t control their anger.||Abusers choose violence as a means of gaining control over their partners. Usually, an abuser does not display violent behaviors or tendencies outside of the relationship, proving that they are very much in control.|
|Substance abuse is one of the main causes of domestic violence.||While there is a strong correlation between substance abuse and domestic violence, substance abuse is NOT a cause of domestic violence. |
Alcohol and other substances can act as a disinhibitor, possibly resulting in a higher level of violence or an escalation from verbal to physical abuse. However, an abusive person is most likely to remain abusive, even when they are sober.
|Domestic violence happens primarily in uneducated populations.||Domestic violence does not discriminate. People from all backgrounds, ethnicities, religions, races, socio-economic status and education levels are impacted by domestic violence equally.|
|Women and girls are the only victims of teen dating violence.||About 85% of victims of domestic violence are female, but that means that 15% are male. The number of male victims is probably higher, because they are less likely to come forward.|
|If a child who is exposed to domestic violence does not show disruptive behaviors, it can be assumed that s/he is not being impacted by the violence.||Children might respond differently to witnessing or experiencing domestic violence. Some children may display regressive behaviors, while others become overachievers, but each person is impacted.|
|Victims of domestic violence are safer when they leave an abusive relationship than when they stay in it.||The most dangerous time for victims of domestic violence is when they initiate separation.|
It is critical that victims have a safety plan when leaving an abusive relationship. After separation, the abuser may use additional tactics to try to control their partner, for example stalking, non-compliance with court orders and failure to pay child support.