Greenwich Time 11.October.2019: A long and contentious divorce left Wendy G. plagued by self-doubt and shame, even after the legal papers were finalized. She said the years-long court proceedings dealt a severe blow to her self-confidence. “I came to the YWCA struggling — struggling with the hopelessness that although legally divorced, my days were still hijacked by my ex-husband,” she said at the Greenwich YWCA on Thursday night. “When I came to the YWCA, it took a few counseling sessions for me to believe my experience was, in fact, domestic abuse and that I was justified in being here asking for help.” She was one of the many domestic violence survivors who told her story at the Greenwich YWCA’s annual Candlelight Vigil, which celebrates survivors, remembers deceased victims of abuse and lights candles of hope for the future. The vigil on Thursday honored the memory of the 23 people who died last year in Connecticut as a result of domestic violence. The victims ranged in age from 6 weeks old to 87 years old. As each name was read, police officers, community members and individuals affected by domestic abuse dropped a rose into a vase to honor every deceased victim. There was a moment of silence for all the victims. The YWCA gave an award to Patrick Mooney for his countless hours of financial guidance to victims who have been financially abused. The event was held to mark Domestic Violence Awareness Month in October. Many might envision a victim of domestic abuse as a battered, timid woman who is secluded at home, hiding her bruises. But Greenwich YWCA staff said thousands of individuals from all walks of life enter the facility year after year, looking for help for different forms of abuse. As the only state-designated provider of domestic abuse services in Greenwich, the YWCA responded to more than 3,700 calls to its hotline last year and provided services nearly every day to a victim who arrived there seeking help, said Mary Lee Kiernan, president and CEO of the YWCA. Domestic violence is the second most investigated crime in town, according to YWCA staff, who work closely with police.